Marriage is one of the passage of life, from time to time we get invited for church weddings. When people we know are tying the note, they will invite us to their wedding to witness.
Right before marriage couples usually court, during these time couples spend time together, each partner tries to know more about the other. They do many activities together and when they are finally ready they get married.
It is advisable for couples to go for counselling before they get married. Women and men have different roles in marriage, during this counselling period, these are the things they are taught. Some of the topics learnt is how to handle misunderstandings in the marriage. The couple can get the advice from their parents, church leaders and relatives.
We have witnessed cases where at a certain stage in marriage couples start experiencing marital problems. They couple spend more time away from each other and arguments become part of their daily life. In extreme cases the couple will want to have a divorce.
In extreme cases the couple choose to go ahead and get a divorce. In such cases it is advisable to consider going for counselling. The counseling can either be done individual, where each couple goes to see the therapist alone or you go for the counselling sessions together.
The marriage counselor in the process of trying to solve your marriage, will begin asking questions like how your marriage got to this point. The therapist will remind you all the good times you shared as a couple, while you were dating and when the relationship was new. It normal to fine couples drifting from one another due to boredom, pressure and other stressful situations that they might be going through in life.
People get married due to reasons such as companionship and happiness, among others, if it a certain point in their marriage these things start missing, they will drift away from each other. The marriage counselor will try and see how both of you can work to getting back to a place where those needs were been accomplished.
You can easily find books which have been written about marriage and relationships. As part of the marriage counselling, couples are advised to read certain books that are recommended by the therapist. There are also many such books on the internet, they are ideal for people in a relationship, newly wed and anyone who is married.
After marriage, the next step for most couples is to start having babies. Most couples have very busy schedules, they cannot afford to be around their kids all the time, hence most couples end up hiring a nanny to look after the babies. When looking for a babysitter before hiring one, it is advisable to do a background check on them.